This will be a rare emotional chapter of Curated. My sister's guest post today is about that irrational thing called love. That head in the clouds thing called love. That shake your head and roll your eyes thing called love that works. My sister and her husband have experienced a transformational personal experience over the last 8 years. They have truly brought their love to life. And while everyone's way is unique, here today, she shares her personal secrets of success.
Bringing Love…to Life.
by Tammy
Being a couple in life is challenging. I have spent the past eight and a half years navigating the waters of my relationship. Some days the waters are rough, and some days, they are calm and enjoyable. I believe that the success of my relationship is found in the movements of the changing waters. It’s found in the moments that throw us off course. My husband and I have shared moments of drifting, where the wind takes us places we weren’t prepared for. This is how we survive:
1) We believe in each other, and never waiver on that. Being unable to do something is not even on our radar; our faith in each other gives us the strength to carry on.
2) We encourage each other to go after the things we dream about, even when we think they are out of reach, because what do we have, if we don’t have dreams or goals?
3) We have learned, together, that disagreements don’t mean the end. They are bumps in the road, or changes of course, and should be approached with the idea that they teach us something. Something about ourselves, something about each other or something about what we want out of our lives. Disagreements are good, because they help us to stay on our chosen path. They redirect us when we’ve lost our way.
4) We never give up, on ourselves, on each other or on us. We often discuss our life together. Where we came from, where we are, and where we want to be. We understand that we are only human, and can make mistakes and that while sometimes mistakes can hurt, they can teach us a whole lot too. Ultimately, we want to be in each other’s lives, and it’s that want, that desire that pushes us to keep going and sort things out, even when things seem irresolvable.
5) We love each other. Fully and completely. We shower each other with love. Our love has not strings, it depends on nothing. We never hang up the phone, go to bed, or start the day without saying “I love you”.
Our relationship works because we don’t try to be anything that we are not. In the early stages, we both had a take me as I am, or leave me policy. We change not because we feel we need to, but because we continue to grow together, and we want to be a better person for each other. My husband has shown me that love has no boundaries, and no expectations. It cannot be forced, or contrived. It just is. And when you meet the person who can complete you, only then does love bring you to life.
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